Man From (My) Mars

Who believes in standards? Yes I do.

Here's my description of a god in my universe, well at least in my own.

1. HE IS ASIAN.

Mario Maurer (Thai Actor)

I rarely fall for the "western" looking guy, (well maybe except for Ed Westwick) and I always prefer the Asian look (even in women). You can trace this down back in my childhood: my first crush was a Japanese neighbor. I wasn't even studying back then (I think?) and I really like this guy living across the street. My parents even have to call him once just so I would be able to take a picture with him (this sucks I know).

I am an avid fan of Asian stuff: culture, music, drama, food, etc. Yes I love places outside Asia especially in Europe but there's this feeling of belonging in Asian culture that makes me want to know about it more. FACT: I took around 20+ units of Asian related subjects in the university (including Philippine related subjects)

I preferred to watch MTV Asian Music Awards than the American version of it before. I got to know Rain and SE7EN before everyone else did (yes, confident).

2. HE SINGS

Not the professional type, but you know, as long as the effort is there, that's A+. I just need someone who will willingly sing some stupid song if I ask him to (because I sing stupid songs too). But of course, if one can sing wonderfully, that's bonus points!

3. HE DANCES

Not the professional level as well. I would honestly go for a crazy dancer. What's a crazy dancer? Here:

If the guy has the guys, that's A+

4. HE PLAYS AT LEAST ONE MUSICAL INSTRUMENT

If he sings well, then he's exempted. Don't you just like someone who'd play a musical piece for you while on a date? Any musical instrument will do, but I seriously go crazy over violinists, drummers and pianists. FACT: All of my past crushes know how to play a musical instrument, and most are drummers. :)

5. HE IS AN ARTIST

An artist in a sense that he may be a photographer, a painter or someone who could draw people and not just stick figures. I just want someone who could perfectly draw my face and send it as a gift to me on my birthday. :)

IU Speed Drawing by DeeKay

6. HE HAS RESPECT FOR HIS / MY FAMILY

If you're someone who doesn't mind what your parents tell you, then get the fuck out off my life. As they say, men who treat their mothers well would most likely treat their girlfriends / wives the same way too. He must not keep our relationship hidden, especially to his parents.

7. HE HAS A SENSE OF HUMOR

BORING MAN = FAIL  

Do I even need to explain this?

8. HE LOVES ADVENTURES / NATURE

In Zambales

He must agree that the moon is the most beautiful thing during the night, walking by the seashore is a worthwhile thing to do and mountains are divine. He should be someone who enjoys a 14 hour trip.

9. HE LOVES ALL GENRES OF MUSIC

From Classical to Metal Rock, he must endure my extreme listening capacity. My playlist is a smorgasbord of songs from different genres, ages and cultures. (I have Muslim songs, and I'm not Muslim)

If he likes East Asian music (Korean, Japanese), that's A+.

10. HE IS SMART

Not intelligent, just smart. I don't need a nerdy guy. I just need someone who has his own opinions about different things and issues. Again,

BORING MAN = FAIL  

11. HE LIKES KIDS AND CUTE THINGS

Yes to father figure!


11. HE WEARS GLASSES

Hihi. Kyouyaaaaa.

Yes people, I fall for the nerdy-looking guy (READ: Looking). I don't know, it makes people look smart (ugh, stereotypes). FACT: My ex-boyfriend used to wear glasses.

So far, those are the things I usually look for in someone, but that doesn't mean one has to have all. I believe in standards, but not in its execution. However, finding your standards takes time. It takes experience to weigh it.

This is the man from my Mars, who's yours?

I Don't Miss You, I Only Think Of You

Original transcript from: http://tieba.baidu.com/p/533902859
Translated from Chinese to English by my lovely Singaporean friend Eunice. Thank you, lovely!


I miss you, but i only think of you and not look for you.

In this silence, I think of you, playing some soothing music,
Your silhouette  is unclear, the features of your face is blur,
but this doesn't affects my emotions while thinking of you.

I don't think of you all the time,
I only think of you when I'm happy.
You are the first person I want to share my happiness with.

I don't think of you all the time,
I only think of you when I'm unhappy.
You are the first person I will want to tell my thoughts to.

I miss you, but I only think of you and not look for you.

I don't think of you all the time,
I only suddenly thought of you when I'm listening to the music,
No whys,
Just because the lyrics of the song seems like its talking about us.

I don't think of you all the time,
I only suddenly thought of you when I wake up in the morning,
No whys,
Just because the person who appeared in my dreams seems like you.

I don't think of you all the time,
I only suddenly thought of you when I'm reading,
No whys,
Just because the main leads in the story seems like me and you.

I really don't think of you all the time,
I only think of you when I do not feel like thinking of you.
It's good like this,

I don't think of you all the time,
I only think of you till my eyes turn teary.

I miss you, but I only think of you and not look for you.

I miss you, but I'm afraid you'll find out, so I dare not and I will not look for you.

I only keep your messages in my phone,
And when I think of you, I take it out and scroll through them meticulously,
and then quietly laugh at them, cry over them.

Back then, in those lonely nights while I waited for your messages,
If they came, my heart gives me a sense of happiness for an unknown reason.
If they don't, I go to bed with bits of bitterness and fall asleep in them.
I miss you, but I'm afraid you'll find out, so I dare not and will not look for you!

In the days where news of you were present or absent,
There is only me giving my all to look for news or stories about you.
I don't think of you all the time.

Missing you....


P.S ---------

I want to kiss the air around you.

Because they kissed you just now.

Hector*

My cousin is being bullied.

(I purposely covered my cousin's face)

Thanks to Facebook's ticker, my mom was able to find out about this. A group of young boys, which I believe are his classmates, are cyber bullying him: posting edited pictures of my cousin and posting nasty comments about him for the whole world to see. Mom is sure my aunt and uncle doesn't know about this yet, because if they already do, they have probably done something to stop this.


My cousin is already in his 6th grade and is attending a private school. He has mild autism, but that doesn't make him any less as a person. He is a fast learner, fluent in English (with accent) and a responsible boy whose passion is to become a chef someday (he knows how to cook and bake). And these guys who bully him use this condition against him.

Obviously, these kids don't know what they are doing, or maybe not. Bullying is a ground for expulsion. One may argue that it's child's play, but this had gone overboard. What you post in Facebook will be there forever. You can't delete your account, deactivating it is no use, and those pictures of my cousin will be behind his shadows until he grows old.

I look back and realized I've been quite a bully myself, though I haven't gone that far. When I was in 3rd grade, I called my seatmate "stupid" for not answering a question I kept on asking him. In 6th grade, the boys in my class were my friends. We hanged-out, cut classes (very rare case), and poked fun on a few classmates we don't like.

(credits to: Orange County)

That was elementary bullying as I experienced it. A recent US study shows that 77% of students are being bullied by their peers but as far as I am concerned, child bullying revolved only on taunting, teasing, calling others names and maybe a little pushing and hitting. In the advent of the internet, bullying evolved.

Though House Bill 5248 or the Anti-Bullying Act of 2010 was already passed, legislators find cyber-bullying problematic because most cases are anonymous. Also, minors cannot  be penalized, so the most that they can do is to raise awareness and create a safer environment for children with the help of the school and the parents.

Cases such as these may cause trauma or affect one's behavior and I am highly concerned now with how my cousin is dealing this situation. I know that he is one strong kid, and with the help of his family, us, he'll be able to overcome this and continue to achieve what he wants to be. Those who are bullied are not the real victims, but the bullies. They are the ones who need attention and love from others, and the most we can do is to be sensitive to our younger siblings and cousins, because we'll never know that they are victims, and they just need a little bit of our love.

NOTES*

HEC'TOR, n. [from Hector, the son of Priam, a brave Trojan warrior.]

1. A bully; a blustering, turbulent, noisy fellow.

2. One who teases or vexes.

HEC'TOR, v.t. To threaten; to bully; to treat with insolence.

1. To tease; to vex; to torment by words.

HEC'TOR, v.i. To play the bully; to be turbulent or insolent.

A Letter to THE Orange

Dear you,

This is what I hate, or rather dislike. I'm no good at introductions. The impressions I leave are non-existent as there's nothing really to leave, or maybe some, but they don't come with fireworks.

So here, first post and I'm ranting about my weakness rather than introducing myself, or this blog.

Hope you live long. As what I havw told my friend who persuaded me to create you, "I'm a frustrated blogger. I've tried once, twice, thrice, but left all those blogs empty or filled with rubbish."

I'm starting again. Be as colorful as this striking theme I put much effort on...

or at least HAVE SENSE. (Maybe not for me, but for others.)

Bless you.

Love,

I.